My account

Section 01

Mission Statement

The aim of this story is to bring to light some historical sexual crimes that were committed against a minor in Gibraltar during 1995–1996. This is a story about a 10-year-old boy who was subjected to repeated abuse by a sexual predator who is still free within the community of Gibraltar.

For legal reasons, the alleged perpetrator cannot be named, so he will be referred to as Mr Monster. The victim will be referred to as ‘the boy’, ‘the teen’ or ‘the man’, depending on which part of his life is being described.

The victim wholeheartedly encourages anyone who has been on the receiving end of Mr Monster’s crimes to come forward. The man will always support any victims and back them up in any legal case against Mr Monster. The aim is to finally put him in prison.

Section 02

Introduction

Mr Monster is a so-called pillar of the community, but in reality, his access to children allows him to indulge in his sick perversion of paedophilia. Paedophilia is defined as a ‘persistent sexual attraction to prepubescent children’. The use of the word persistent is key, as this type of person does not stop.

You must understand that this is not a one-off and that Mr Monster’s attraction to the boy is not a unique case. You must ask yourself why Mr Monster positions himself in so many ways around children and why he is still allowed so much access. Mr Monster has hidden in plain sight for years, and no one apart from the man has come forward. The man is the only person who has officially spoken out against Mr Monster in public.

Sexual abuse of children is a criminal act and has a profound effect on a child’s development. This story will also try to describe some developmental issues that the boy, the teen and the man have faced throughout his life because of the abuse by Mr Monster.

Section 03

The Boy

The boy had dyslexia, and his parents sent him to Mr Monster’s house every Tuesday and Thursday for roughly eight months to improve his writing and reading. There were up to six children at Mr Monster’s house at any one time who had also been sent to improve their English. The boy came from a broken home, and his parents were going through a messy divorce, which made him a vulnerable target for Mr Monster.

The boy always received more attention from Mr Monster, who would inappropriately welcome him into his house by pinching his groin and putting his hands on him more than he did the other children. The boy understood this as playing and did not know at the time that Mr Monster’s behaviour was already unacceptable.

Whilst trying to read, Mr Monster masturbated the boy on a number of occasions under the table in front of the other children. The boy’s best friend, PT, noticed this and mentioned it, but the boy did not know what to say at the time and was too embarrassed to admit it.

The boy was slowly isolated from the other children as Mr Monster began grooming him with the aim of fulfilling his sick perversions. Mr Monster told the boy to sit on the living-room sofa and sat next to him. Mr Monster told the boy to read as he stroked his penis through his trousers before unzipping them so he could masturbate the boy as he struggled to read.

This isolation of the boy from the other children continued and became normalised to the point that the boy never sat with the other children. Mr Monster then told the boy to go straight to the kitchen for each lesson and continued his sick behaviour of masturbating the boy for months on end.

One Friday, while the boy was walking home from school alone, Mr Monster approached him, said that there was another day of lessons and insisted that the boy go to his house. The boy entered Mr Monster’s house and felt that something was wrong, as there were no other children around and the atmosphere was different.

Mr Monster led the boy into his bedroom and told him to take his trousers off and lie face down on the bed to play a game. The boy felt scared and did as he was told. Mr Monster tied the boy’s legs to the posts of the bed using two neckties and placed an open book in front of him. Mr Monster penetrated the boy and told him not to stop reading. It took the boy a long time to read the book as he could not read properly. This event only happened once.

The boy left the house feeling confused and cried as he walked home. He never mentioned it to anyone because he felt very embarrassed about the event.

Section 04

The Teen

Mr Monster convinced the boy’s parents to send him to a boarding school. The man now understands this was a way to get the boy out of the way.

The teen developed insomnia and deep depression. He did not like growing up because he missed his family, his friends and his home in Gibraltar. The teen never liked his own body and felt physically dirty because of what had happened. His friends and family knew there was something wrong, as he started drinking and using drugs heavily from an early age and became withdrawn and disconnected.

When the teen was 17, he moved back to Gibraltar and developed a hatred for himself for not saying anything, as he knew that Mr Monster still had so much access to children. He also knew that he could not be the only one subjected to Mr Monster’s sexual perversions.

By then, the teen was old enough to understand that Mr Monster had deeply affected his self-image, and he developed a desire to harm himself with more drugs and alcohol. This pattern of behaviour continued as the teen became the man.

Section 05

The Man

The man always struggled to come to terms with what had happened. His depression worsened, as did his drug and alcohol addictions. He used drugs and alcohol to block out negative feelings, and they became a method of self-harm. The man attempted suicide several times because of his depression and addiction problems. He eventually opened up to his loving partner about some of the abuse, and she convinced him to go to the police.

The man went to the RGP to make an official statement against Mr Monster on 27 January 2012, and Mr Monster was subsequently arrested and charged with three counts of abuse. The court case took two years to prepare for, and the man tried his best to put Mr Monster in prison, but Mr Monster was ultimately found not guilty.

The man knew this was an injustice but accepted that you cannot convict someone without evidence unless multiple victims come forward. The man wants to reiterate that he will always back anyone who comes forward. This is a very difficult thing to do in a small community like Gibraltar, where everyone knows you.

You need to understand that the community needs your courage in order to stop the systemic abuse of its children. Please go to the RGP and report the crime or crimes that have been committed against you. The man will be notified by the police, and he will back you up in court after Mr Monster is arrested for his crimes against you.

Yours sincerely,

Luke Abudarham